Learning to apply a “good enough” standard often requires repeated practice. One place I have found that works surprisingly well for practicing this standard is raking leaves. I have even found that, when raking, I can actually use my perfectionism to reduce my perfectionism. Performing “perfectly” to my new “good enough” standard now involves being sure to miss a few leaves.

We are entering a season that is rich with occasions for celebrating -- Halloween, Thanksgiving, etc. But there is a slightly different, deeper sort of celebrating that is a wonderful tool for personal growth that we can all learn to use every day. It is a valuable...

I hope you are well and enjoying the cooler fall weather! I certainly am. It's a wonderful change from the heat of the past summer! The weather outside us affects us in many ways, but have you considered that each of us also has an internal "climate?" Our internal...

Every October, the ADHD “community” celebrates ADHD Awareness Month.   This year’s theme is “Understanding a Shared Experience.” Sharing the ADHD “experience” with others can be a great source of comfort and support. For 60 years of my life, including over thirty...

Many people have the idea that individuals with ADHD have a hard time focusing on anything. That’s not really true. Comparing ADHD focusing to camera focusing might be helpful. . . Those of us with ADHD can also be thought of as having two focus “modes” – an automatic, pre-set way of focusing and a manual way of focusing.

Clever! That’s a word often used to described folks with ADHD. Most of us with ADHD have fast, highly creative, clever minds. We enjoy innovating and thinking outside the box. We enjoy our uniqueness. That has definitely been true for me. I have the ADHD maverick...

Why are some (maybe even all) relationships so challenging? Sure, some are more challenging than others, but it’s certain that they are all challenging, at least at times. Relationships are the context within which we have the opportunity to do our most important...

A guest visiting us last week slept in the bedroom furthest from our Wi-Fi router. She found her Internet connection to be quite unreliable. The connection would drop and then reconnect for a bit only to drop out again. As you know, this sort of poor connection can be...

Can you imagine yourself living in total isolation from other humans? Probably not. Humans evolved as social beings. We need each other. We often cherish our relationships above almost anything else in our lives. These relationships can take many forms: parent/child;...