This ADHD Fact is one to which I can testify from my own experience.
I am a relatively organized person. My husband is not. None of my many attempts to “organize” him have been successful, but I didn’t know why until I began to learn more about ADHD.
It turns out that organizing is definitely not a one-size-fits-all kind of thing! Each of us needs to find ways to keep our stuff and our thoughts in some kind of order, and our systems need to take advantage of the unique ways our brain works.
If you don’t come up with a plan for where to put things, you will have two choices when you are ready to stop carrying them around: either you will have to spend time making a decision every time you need to put something down, or you’ll just drop things where you last used them and spend a ton of time trying to find them when you next need them. Neither choice is particularly efficient or life-enhancing.
One of the basic tenets of many organizing systems is that everything you decide to keep needs to have a home, a place where you know you can always find it when it’s not in use. The kind of home you might choose for a bank statement or a pair of sox might not be at all like the home I would choose for each, but if your system works for you and you can maintain order using it, then all is well – if you live alone. If you share a living space with others, some accommodations will need to be made for others’ needs.
Now that my husband is working with organizational systems that he largely created, he usually can find things when he needs them and there is relative order at his desk and in his closet. Of course, he doesn’t always put an item in its home when he no longer needs it, and things do pile up. But now, when I help him get things back in order, I just put them where he tells me they go, whether or not his system of organizing makes sense to me. This makes the process much quicker and much calmer and we can have a little celebration afterwards!
As we all begin to value the neurodiversity of human beings, we’ll appreciate that each of us needs to discover strategies and systems that work in harmony with our unique brain wiring.