In an earlier post I talked about the power of questions, but I found myself thinking about questions this past weekend because of a book I’m reading. Here’s a little background to this post:
Knowing that I enjoy listening to audio books when I go for a daily walk (in fact the audio book is usually what gets me out of the house and walking!), a friend recommended a series with a heroine named Maisie Dobbs. You may have heard of the series by Jacqueline Winspear, but I hadn’t before borrowing the first in the series in audio form from our local library. I’m loving the first book which is called simply Maisie Dobbs!
Most of the book takes place in the first few decades of the 20th century. Maisie has set herself up in business as a unique kind of psychologist who does private investigations in London and other parts of England. She asks a lot of questions, has sharp senses (especially intuition), and listens deeply and respectfully to everyone she contacts. Frankly, she has a lot of qualities to which I aspire as a coach and that’s another reason I’m enjoying the book!
As the book flashes back into Maisie’s early life, we are introduced to her unique teacher, a man who understands Maisie’s high intelligence and special gifts and challenges her to move ahead in her education, despite her lower class birth. At one point this professor says to Maisie – and this is what prompted today’s Hint — “Stay with the question. The more it troubles you, the more it has to teach you. In time, Maisie, you will find that the larger questions in life share such behavior.”
That comment resonated with me. I’ve learned that our brains love questions, but in my experience they don’t always have to trouble you. In one of my favorite books, One Small Step Can Change Your Life by Dr. Robert Maurer, there is a discussion of the power of questions. If there is a challenge facing you, one thing Dr. Maurer suggests you do is ask yourself a question, such as “What is one way I can remind myself to drink more water?” Then just live with the question for a few days. Remind yourself of the question from time to time and “stay with it.” Your brain apparently won’t be able to help itself! It will begin to see possibilities for answering the question (keep a bottle of water in the car, keep another one on your desk).
Certainly some questions need immediate attention and it may not work well to just live with those questions, but when you are interested in making a lifestyle change or perhaps want to understand something about yourself, try just putting the question out there. Ask it and let it go. Then ask it gain occasionally and see what comes to you. Dr. Maurer says your brain can’t help itself. It will be working behind the scenes (or maybe consciously as well) to come up with answers that may surprise you.
And speaking of questions, if you have any questions about ADHD coaching, either Neil or I would be very happy to talk with you and answer them as best we can. Please contact us through the contact form on each page of this website. Let us know which of us you’d like to talk with and we’ll set up an appointment for a free exploratory coaching session.